When the pandemic started, most of the focus was on the victims of the virus. Time passed and lockdowns ensued. We then talked more and more about other forms of fallout. From economic crises to political division, the collateral damage spread. Now, here we are, well over a year later.
Assessing the cost of Covid-related actions has expanded into the realm of our collective emotional health. More specifically, months of uncertainty put some major stress on all of our relationships. Many of us are realizing that the pandemic pressure we endured brought some deeper relationship issues bubbling to the surface.
The Pandemic vs. Your Relationship
So many of us feel like our lives were put on hold. In that state, “normal” moved further and further from sight. Such stress can impact even those of us in healthy relationships. We’re usually more blunt or real with our partners. Suddenly, we’re working from home together — feeling isolated and frustrated. It’s inevitable for this to manifest in some interpersonal strife, e.g. Perhaps you experienced the following:
Blaming each other for external factors
Dealing with a loss of privacy and solitude
Juggling household responsibilities
Navigating financial issues
Disagreeing on how best to handle the global crisis
Devolving into unhealthy communication habits
All of the above — and more — adds up to some serious discomfort. It may also shine a light on problems that have been avoided or buried. If any of this sounds familiar, it is essential that you take steps to address the issues before they escalate.
What to Do If the Pandemic Brought Key Relationship Problems to Your Attention
Open Up the Lines of Healthy Communication
You want your communication to be direct, ongoing, respectful, and face-to-face. This will be your foundation as you tackle problems — old and new. Set aside time to be present with each other. Don’t leave your connection to chance. Plan out times when you both can be right there, in the moment. Yes, that means powering down your devices and paying full attention. It’s a wonderful gift to give each other on a regular basis.
Cultivate a Stress Management Practice
A little self-care goes a long way toward developing patience and perspective. Safeguard your sleeping and eating habits. Be sure to get in some exercise and activity every day. Develop some relaxation techniques to help de-stress. Bring out the best version of yourself. This will reduce the chances of taking out frustration on the person closest to you.
Take Up New Hobbies and Activities Together
Each of you can make a list of things you’d like to try — from new hobbies to exciting meals to bedroom fantasies and beyond! Compare lists and take it from there. Add variety and novelty to your daily life.
Make Fun Plans for Post-Lockdown Life
You might set up a fancy vacation or renovate your home. Or you could consider visiting the new Italian restaurant that just opened in your neighborhood. Whatever it is, create excitement by identifying a better future together.
You Don’t Have to Figure It Out Alone
There is no shame in struggling in the midst of a major global crisis. You don’t have to heap all the blame on yourselves. You also do not have to figure out the solutions alone. Couples counseling is a powerful option. Whether you chose to attend in person or via video chat, your sessions will offer balance during this time of confusion.
Once again, no one should be expected to come out of this situation unscathed. Committing to therapy together is a giant step toward healing and recovery. It all begins with a confidential consultation. Please read more about life counseling and let’s connect today!
